Make a list of all the key areas of your life: Personal, Love, Spiritual, Family, etc. Areas in which you are doing good, tick mark them. 

It means there is no major karma to work on.

From the remaining areas which is the one you are struggling or have struggled the most? There will be one area that will stand out. 

That will be your core soul theme you signed up to learn and grow in this lifetime.

Once you've identified the core theme of your life, the next step is to identify what soul lessons you have learnt so far? 

Good as well as bad...write them all down.

All those who entered your life had a lesson to teach. Against each person’s name write down what did you learn or become? 

Did you heal, bloom or did your heart shut down? 

This understanding is very important.

Try and examine your recurring behaviours, patterns or emotions. How do you react? 

Have you changed across the different phases of your life? Or have you more or less remained the same person...

Once you understand your self- limiting patterns, you can break them. 

Remember, habits take a lot of time to form, so breaking them will take time, too. Hence, be patient with yourself.

Take a good look at all that you have written. Identify what changes you need to make within you to reach a place of peace and calm.

Make peace with your past. Then seal it. The future is still unborn, so all you have is the present to make changes.

Take the lead and act. Do your best and leave the rest to God.